I read somewhere that people generally talk more intimately to a friend on the telephone than they do in person.
Think that’s true?
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I read somewhere that people generally talk more intimately to a friend on the telephone than they do in person.
Think that’s true?
Comments are closed.
I think people talk most intimately in blog comment threads, lover.
That’s not true for me, but I think it is for a lot of people.
LOL@ Tom!
Um, phone sex?
LOL…
Good Golly, Miss Molly!
You people.
This was one of the “Half Wisdom” NewMexiKen items and you have cheapened it. 🙂
Thanks for taking it seriously MildChild.
I know; cheapened phone sex. How low can you go. 😉 (Rhetorical question; don’t answer that!)
Seriously? Yes, I think phone conversations can be far more intimate than in person mostly because you are only using one sense: hearing. In person, you are more distracted by the physical, your own presentation, sound, smell, and possibly a sense of taste (not to cheapen this response any further.. ahem…)
So, mouth to ear can potentially be more intimate ’cause you don’t have all of those other distractions and one may very well be more apt to share in that undivided attention situation.
Unless you have kids.
Duh.
😉
at the reference desk, we hear some phoned-in questions that wouldn’t ordinarily be heard in usual conversation. it’s coz there’s no eye contact– it’s all modulation of the vox humana. the public knows we are there, knows we are trust-worthy, knows we know some shit, and so they talk like we’re confessional priest combined with shrink combined with geek combined with bar tender. i love my job.
and tom, i almost snorted beer out my nose
I realize that much of Freud has been repudiated, but this trait — that we can sometimes talk more intimately when not face-to-face — is what caused Freud to have his patients recline on a couch looking away from him.
The Freud reference is especially relevant — as is the one mentioning calls to the help desk — but one is face-to-face and one is on the telephone. When I was a bartender, I often had customers get waaaay more intimate than I every would have liked or believed, and yes, there was alcohol involved, but typically, it didn’t take much to grease those wheels.
Some people simply find it easier to speak intimately with strangers.
I’m not one of those people, and eye contact, facial expression, and touch greatly help me to connect. Some people, though, find those things a hinderance when it comes to soul bearing/vulnerability, and they’re the ones, I think, who share more deeply (and freely) over the phone, in email, to help desk operators and cab drivers and bartenders. And phone sex operators, too.