Using our indoor voices

From an article in The New York Times, At Center of a Clash, Rowdy Children in Coffee Shops:

“I love people who don’t have children who tell you how to parent,” said Alison Miller, 35, a psychologist, corporate coach and mother of two. “I’d love for him to be responsible for three children for the next year and see if he can control the volume of their voices every minute of the day.”

Mr. McCauley, 44, said the protesting parents were “former cheerleaders and beauty queens” who “have a very strong sense of entitlement.” In an open letter he handed out at the bakery, he warned of an “epidemic” of antisocial behavior.

“Part of parenting skills is teaching kids they behave differently in a restaurant than they do on the playground,” Mr. McCauley said in an interview. “If you send out positive energy, positive energy returns to you. If you send out energy that says I’m the only one that matters, it’s going to be a pretty chaotic world.”

And so simmers another skirmish between the childless and the child-centered, a culture clash increasingly common in restaurants and other public spaces as a new generation of busy, older, well-off parents ferry little ones with them.

An online petition urging child-free sections in North Carolina restaurants drew hundreds of signers, including Janelle Funk, who wrote, “Whenever a hostess asks me ‘smoking or non-smoking?’ I respond, ‘No kids!’ ”

At Mendo Bistro in Fort Bragg, Calif., the owners declare “Well-behaved children and parents welcome” to try to stop unmonitored youngsters from tap-dancing on the 100-year-old wood floors.

Menus at Zumbro Cafe in Minneapolis say: “We love children, especially when they’re tucked into chairs and behaving,” which Barbara Daenzer said she read as an invitation to cease her weekly breakfast visits after her son was born.

Even at the Full Moon in Cambridge, Mass., a cafe created for families, with a train table, a dollhouse and a plastic kitchen in a carpeted play area, there are rules about inside voices and a “No lifeguard on duty” sign to remind parents to take responsibility.

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